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9 Proven Ways to Keep Your Marriage Exciting & Strengthen Your Bond

In 2017 alone, 2,236,496 couples got married.

While the first year of marriage is often happy and full of new and exciting adventures, it’s normal for that excitement to fade over time.

Though common, you don’t have to settle for dwindling excitement.

There’s always something you can do to keep things interesting and ensure that you and your spouse have a marriage filled with fun, love, and happiness.

If you’re wondering how to keep a marriage exciting, don’t panic.

Here are a few simple things you can do to keep the spark alive for years to come.

How to Keep a Marriage Exciting: 9 Tips for Keeping the Romance Alive

Try New Things Together

If you’ve been together for several years, you’ve likely established habits you rely on daily.

Habits aren’t bad, but sticking to them every day without fail can stifle your marriage.

Instead, take the time to try new things together. Find experiences that push you just outside your comfort zone and enjoy them with your spouse.

Even if you don’t enjoy the experience a lot, you’ll have something to talk about and create new memories together.

Consider taking romantic getaways annually. This gives you something to look forward to and a perfect chance to try new things.

Couple trying new experiences together

Make Time for Date Nights

Schedule special date nights with your spouse.

Go beyond the regular weekly dinner — get dressed up, buy flowers, and do something memorable.

This helps you reconnect and rejuvenate your relationship.

Couple enjoying a special date night

Tell Your Partner You Appreciate Them

Daily life can get busy, but take time every day to express love and appreciation.

Small gestures and kind words can strengthen your bond immensely.

Expressing appreciation to your spouse

Do One Nice Thing for Each Other Daily

Show how much your spouse means to you by doing a kind act each day.

For example, if they make your morning coffee, give them some extra rest time.

Small gestures go a long way.

Doing kind acts for each other daily

Just Talk to Each Other

Set aside time daily to talk about anything besides chores or responsibilities.

Ask about each other’s day, discuss dreams, plans, or simply listen.

Rebuilding this habit strengthens your connection.

Couple having meaningful conversations

Don’t Go to Bed Mad

Let go of grudges before bedtime. You don’t have to agree, but holding onto anger harms your marriage.

You’ll sleep better and enjoy your spouse’s company more when you let things go.

Couple resolving disagreements before bed

Embrace Intimacy

Physical closeness is vital — hold hands, kiss, hug, and cuddle regularly.

Intimacy can be a connection and comfort that keeps the spark alive.

Couple embracing intimacy

Stay In More Often

Spend quality time together at home to deepen your bond.

Share chores and make them fun to enjoy your time indoors.

Couple spending time at home together

Enjoy Your Individuality

Healthy relationships balance togetherness with independence.

Spend time doing things that make you happy alone or with friends, then come back refreshed.

Understanding How to Keep a Marriage Exciting Is Simple

The key is spending quality time together and maintaining open communication.

Remember, your marriage is important but so is your individual happiness.

For more helpful tips on improving your relationship, check out our recent posts.


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About Julee Morrison

Julee Morrison is an author and writer with over 35 years of experience in parenting and family recipes. She’s the author of four cookbooks: The Instant Pot College Cookbook, The How-To Cookbook for Teens, The Complete Cookbook for Teens, and The Complete College Cookbook.Available on Amazon,

Her work has appeared in The LA Times, Disney’s Family Fun Magazine, Bon Appétit, Weight Watchers Magazine, All You, Scholastic Parent & Child, and more.

Her article "My Toddler Stood on Elvis' Grave and Scaled Over Boulders to Get to a Dinosaur" appeared on AP News, and her parenting piece “The Sly Way I Cured My Child's Lying Habit” was featured on PopSugar.

Outside of writing, Julee enjoys baking, reading, collecting crystals, and spending time with her family. You can find more of her work at Mommy’s Memorandum.