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Tumultuous Times – 7 Tips For Avoiding Unnecessary Friction in a Relationship

Relationships are hard.

Even people in the happiest relationships are at some point going to hit a rocky period. Some rocks are more significant than others, and, at times, relationships cave in under the weight. There are, however, ways to minimize the collateral damage done by these relationship rocks and methods to avoid the unnecessary friction that makes tough times tougher.

7 tips for avoiding unnecessary friction in a relationship

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Open and Honest 

Eliminate tendencies for passive-aggressive behavior.

This will serve you in all areas of life. Communicate and apologize when necessary, but avoid passive-aggressive behavior like giving empty apologies.

Stay Rational 

Don’t let fear get the better of you.

Fear of change and losing loved ones make us do some crazy things. If a relationship isn’t working, try not to jump to conclusions or shut yourself off entirely at the first sign of trouble. Stay rational, communicate, and take each step as it comes.

If things go pear-shaped, then do your best to deal with it in the most reasonable way possible, and be sure to educate yourself on all options available. Try looking at Marguerite Picard’s website as a first step in calming your anxiety over a potential separation. It doesn’t have to go the way of a Hollywood courtroom drama.

Meet the Parents 

If you don’t get on with In-laws – set reasonable time limits for visits.

There’s no point having big arguments over issues involving extended family because no matter what, we are all stuck with them to some degree. Maturity, as always, is key and knowing that a person is going to care for their parents and siblings regardless of past issues brings you a step closer to creating peace in family relations.

Make Time

 If issues arise or your partner has done something to hurt you, then take the time to talk it through and give them room to explain. Often time is worth more than money, advises Forbes, and money often causes issues.

Before you start throwing plates and burning photographs, try talking – whether that’s in person, or phone, or text. Whatever is easiest is okay. Not all confrontations have to happen in person. Sometimes that space is what is best to help resolve a dispute.

Why Do You Always Need To Be Right?

 You might wonder why your partner refuses to let things go and has to be right over a trivial argument. Sometimes, it’s beneficial to check yourself, suggest Psychology Today, and ask that question in the mirror. Why do you need to be right? Sometimes the best solution is just to let it go.

Especially if you are arguing over something like the plotline of a TV show or the best way to clean the bathroom, does it matter? Is it worth the stress and damage to your relationship? Generally speaking, no, it is not.

Listen – Actively and Genuinely.

Listening is key in all relationships and interactions with people.

Yet, most of the time, people are so busy thinking of themselves and what they will say next that they don’t take the time to engage and listen actively. Try slowing down in your conversations. Give your attention, be in the moment, and engage with the person you are talking to. It will make a world of difference.

Make Your Partner An Ally.

 Especially when children are involved, parents can tend to play the good cop/ bad cop roles. This way of parenting can wreak havoc on your relationship. If one person constantly has to be the bad guy, and you are continually doing battle when engaging with your children – the most influential people in both of your lives – there is bound to be conflict growing on the walls like mold.

Treat each other as an ally. Show your children that you love each other. Team up and back each other up in making decisions. You might not always agree, but if you always have each other’s back, then your relationship will strengthen over time.

A bad marriage can impact your health.

Above all, remember that you loved this person you are in a relationship with at one point. You loved and cared for them and wanted to, chose to, spend the majority of your time with that one person for a reason. There’s no point making things harder than they have to be.

About Julee: Julee Morrison is an experienced author with 35 years of expertise in parenting and recipes. She is the author of four cookbooks: The Instant Pot College Cookbook, The How-To Cookbook for Teens, The Complete Cookbook for Teens, and The Complete College Cookbook. Julee is passionate about baking, crystals, reading, and family. Her writing has appeared in The LA Times (Bon Jovi Obsession Goes Global), Disney's Family Fun Magazine (August 2010, July 2009, September 2008), and My Family Gave Up Television (page 92, Disney Family Fun August 2010). Her great ideas have been featured in Disney's Family Fun (Page 80, September 2008) and the Write for Charity book From the Heart (May 2010). Julee's work has also been published in Weight Watchers Magazine, All You Magazine (Jan. 2011, February 2011, June 2013), Scholastic Parent and Child Magazine (Oct. 2011), Red River Family Magazine (Jan. 2011),, and more. Notably, her article "My Toddler Stood on Elvis' Grave and Scaled Over Boulders to Get to a Dinosaur" made AP News, and "The Sly Way I Cured My Child's Lying Habit" was featured on PopSugar. When she's not writing, Julee enjoys spending time with her family and exploring new baking recipes.
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