Anything new is automatic, at least on some levels, pretty exciting, especially when it comes to relationships.
That’s because, in the beginning, you’re still getting to know the person, which means that you’re never really 100 percent sure what to expect.
Add that to the dating routine and, even if it’s a place that you have been to before, it’s still a thrill because you’re going to the movies or dinner and dancing with the person you are still getting to know.
As time goes by and familiarity begins to set in, although the love may be more solidified, there still tends to be the potential of falling into a bit of a rut.
According to Psychology Today, when a relationship becomes too routine, that can turn into boredom, and potentially, the relationship could be seen as a bit tedious.
The good news is that there are definitely things that you can do to add some excitement to your marriage or long-term relationship.
We have five good recommendations below to Add Excitement to Your Marriage or Relationship
Still court one another.
When the relationship first started, you couldn’t wait to see one another, and the way you did that was plan dates.
Just because you’ve been together several years, that doesn’t need to stop.
When you make a point to plan some time outside of the house to spend with one another, it reminds both of you that dating is still just as much of a priority as it once was.
A man never gets tired of receiving an “I can’t wait until you get home tonight” email or text.
A woman always looks forward to receiving flowers at work for absolutely no reason other than “just because I love you.”
Each week, make it a point to do something out of the blue that lets your partner know that they are still just as desirable as the day of your first kiss.
Plan a vacation.
Those with marriage and family counseling degrees will probably tell you that one key to keeping the romance alive is to make sure to switch up the scenery from time to time.
You can do this by planning a getaway.
Whether it’s a bed and breakfast that’s 30 minutes away or a trip overseas, try and make that (at least) an annual priority.
Nothing says “that old loving feeling” like a fabulous hotel room in another city or town.
Create your own traditions.
Most couples make it a point to celebrate their anniversary; but, it’s also special to commemorate other special moments in your relationship, such as your first date or the first time you said “I love you” to one another.
In other words, don’t wait until that one day in the year to make a big deal out of your union.
The day you got married is just one of them.
Create traditions beyond following the guide on what to get each other for your anniversary.
Start a tradition of reading together in bed for 30 minutes or enjoying a cup of tea at the end of the day to discuss the days with each other.
Get a fantasy journal.
No matter how long you’ve been with someone or how old you get, you will always have fantasies.
So, why not get a private journal that you and your partner can write your own secret desires that can be shared between the two of you?
It’s a subtle way to get to know one another’s deepest thoughts and a gentle nudge towards making some of those dreams a reality.