We all have fun, giddy and amazing feelings starting to date someone. Our life is full of romance and excitement for the first few months of romantic dates and maybe even a few years of happy marriage. But over time, when you’ve already had two lovely kids, a nice job and plenty of household chores, you start realizing that you don’t have those wonderful, giddy feelings every day when you spend time with your other half. Yes, it`s really very sad, but it’s part of your life! And that doesn’t mean that you don’t love your spouse anymore, it just means that you concentrate so much on others. Thus, you`ve forgotten how to have those great feelings!
The divorce research indicated that 50% of all U. S. marriages end in divorce. 80% of such couples are headed in the direction of divorce within their first four to five years of marriage. Researchers have found that the main reason for this is a decrease in passion, communication, and excitement in the relationship. The statistics are not so encouraging, but, luckily, it’s not too late to rekindle those fun feelings that you felt in the early days of your relationship and marriage. Here are 5 ideas on how to keep your marriage exciting and how to revive the passion in your relationship.
Remind your spouse of your love in different ways
If you have a long-term relationship or marriage, don`t forget to tell your significant other words of love as often as possible. Besides, you can do this in different ways. You can send romantic text messages to your loved one several times a day, especially since you can find online so many flirty text messages and funny, sexy love quotes for him. You may also write your other half a letter about your feelings; you may give a hint that you need and appreciate your spouse so much in such affectionate letters or just leave early in the morning “I love YOU” on the mirror in the bathroom. Don`t be afraid to take the first step and soon you`ll get such messages, letters and tender words in return.
Arrange spontaneous dates
If you`ve been already married and no longer pursuing one another, it doesn’t mean that you must stop dating each other. Dating is one of the best ways to keep your relationship exciting and fresh as dates help you remind of romance that you’ve felt on your first dates. Be spontaneous as it is a key secret to a successful marriage. If you don`t know how to be spontaneous with your husband, firstly, try to arrange some out-of-the-ordinary, unexpected date because such spontaneous dates are commonly more emotional and they will increase the passion and intensity in your relationship.
Add the simple pleasures in your life
Remember, you have only one life so don’t get so busy that you forget to slow down and enjoy life, don’t forget to enjoy it with your husband. Find the time to go to the cinema, zoo or circus together, find the opportunity to roller-skate or play snowballs with your spouse. Never miss an opportunity to share your time with your loved one. So plan out and prioritize your calendar.
Kiss and hug your husband whenever you want
The power of touching cannot be overemphasized. But, actually, it`s so easy to kiss your significant other leaving to work and returning home, and it’s so easy to give your partner a big hug watching TV in the evening. It`s very easy to do, and it`s very important for refreshing your marriage! By the way, the study proved that the affectionate, non-sexual touch reduces stress (it lowers a cortisol – a stress hormone and increases oxytocin – a stress-reducing hormone). Hugging your spouse, or even just holding hands, reduces your blood pressure and heart rate. So when you feel stressed next time, use this useful way to reduce it!
Fill your house with positive memories
One more great idea on how to restore your marriage is to fill your house with positive memories. Just display funny memories everywhere in your home. It can be the photos or some things which are very valuable for both of you and associated with the brightest moments of your life. If you argue, these things will make you laugh because you`ll undoubtedly remind of the good times and how you love each other!
All these ways indeed can refresh your relationship and add the romance to your life, but you shouldn’t try them all within one week. Implement them gradually in your life, and soon you`ll see the results. Take good care of your love, your loved one, and your marriage!