If you’ve been married for a while, you can probably pinpoint with some accuracy the last time you took a spin around the floor with your spouse: your wedding day.
Unfortunately, dancing is not the popular activity it once was. While it used to present a way for men and women to meet and socialize, the dance halls of today (or clubs) are more likely to produce a one-night stand than a lasting relationship. And most people just don’t put much time into really learning to dance, preferring to sway back and forth with a nameless crowd, searching for a meaningless fling rather than facing a partner in an intimate ritual of courtship.
- Rekindle your romance. Even if you think you can’t dance, it’s really just a matter of practice and commitment. And having your special someone by your side can be helpful and motivational when it comes to learning to dance. What’s even better about taking lessons together is that you can relearn everything about your partner. No matter what your history is, you may have started to take each other for granted. But finding a new and intimate way to interact with one another can definitely cause sparks to fly, rekindling the romance that has probably cooled over the course of your marriage.
- Get fit. In addition to helping you reconnect with your spouse, dancing can be a great form of fitness, especially if you work hard in class and practice a lot on the side. It can help to strengthen your muscles and tone your body. And if you don’t currently have a regular exercise regimen, this could be a way to get fit that doesn’t feel like work at all.
- Improve coordination. Coordination is only partially a matter of what you’re born with; the rest is what you do with it. And training your body to dance can definitely help to get you in touch with parts of your body you never even knew existed, just like starting any new form of exercise. Even if you have two left feet, dance lessons give you the opportunity to improve coordination.
- Lose weight. As you get older there’s a good chance your metabolism will change. And when you’re tired after a long day of work, you might not be keen to work out or eat right. As a result, you can gain some unwanted pounds, making you feel lethargic, and sadly, unattractive. It’s not easy getting out of this downward spiral, but once you start dancing you’ll begin to feel better and minor successes will fuel your progress. Over time, you can get healthy, lose weight, and start to feel sexy again, which is all good news for you and your spouse.
- Have fun! Whether you’re learning West Coast Swing in Los Angeles or Salsa New York to Miami, dancing is an activity that can spell fun for you and your spouse, especially if you feel like you’re in a rut. It’s not uncommon for interests to change as you age, and the activities that drew you and your spouse together may no longer be relevant to your lives. If you’re looking for new ways to have fun together, give dancing a whirl.