When the powerful Lizzo took over the internet with her song, “Truth Hurts”, it took me days to realize it was on self-love.
Because the idea of loving myself was so alien to me.
Fast forward to three years later (2020); everyone is talking about self-acceptance.
We see self-love quotes on t-shirts.
They are in song lyrics, newspapers, magazines, and everywhere.
Not to mention, brands are preaching about self-acceptance.
People are reposting inspirational quotes on their social accounts as well.
Sounds cool and enlightening.
But the question still remains crisp and clear:
How to incorporate these ideas into practice?
How to love thyself?
It’s sad but true, we have commoditized the idea of self-love!
We believe in it and preach about it, but is that enough?
Self-love doesn’t come easy for everyone.
It’s easier said than done.
And since the concept of self-acceptance/ love has been trending in pop culture, it’s easy to form misconceptions about what it actually means.
So how do we tackle the myths?
How do we know we are practicing what we preach?
We are here to help you with the same.
In this article, we will debunk 3 myths concerning the idea of self-acceptance.
Myth1: Accepting Something Means Giving Up
We are easily made to believe that accepting a situation or thing is equivalent to giving up.
However, that’s never the case.
Acceptance is the way to recovery.
A lot of people feel insecure about themselves – be it their appearances or relationships.
And those insecurities make them feel demotivated and affect their self-esteem.
But when we accept to learn our flaws and embrace them beautifully, we grow as a person.
Oftentimes, it takes more courage to accept yourself as you are, but it is a step forward in the journey to self-acceptance.
This doesn’t mean we should not try becoming a better version of ourselves.
That said, we should see acceptance as “giving in” rather than “giving up”.
This also means understanding that certain things are out of your control, but not hesitating from utilizing the resources you have.
Myth 2: Self Acceptance Is Easy
As mentioned above, self-acceptance doesn’t come easy for everyone.
And the thought that everyone is preaching about it makes it even more difficult for some people.
The idea is much deeper than we think it is.
In order to fit in, we forget who we truly are, and try to become what the society wants us to be.
But that’s not self-acceptance.
That’s a facade we create to escape reality.
Self-acceptance requires hard work and commitment.
It doesn’t happen overnight.
Rather, it’s an ever-evolving process.
Accepting the self “as-is” happens to be a long journey, but the tireless effort of the process is what instills confidence, gives satisfaction, and helps sleep better at night.
So, go slow and be patient.
Your hard work will definitely reap the results.
Myth3: Acceptance Means Tolerance
Even though acceptance and tolerance are used interchangeably, they have different meanings.
Therefore, it is essential to understand the difference between the two.
Once you start tolerating things about yourself, there is no room for improvement.
Let me break this down for you.
For example, you are shameful about a particular habit of yours, but rather than choosing to work upon it, you ignore it and live with it.
Now that indicates giving up.
Whereas acceptance is choosing not to tolerate habits/emotions and thoughts that don’t serve you.
Tolerating something under the guise of self-acceptance is wrong, and one should not indulge in it.
When everyone from Selena Gomez to Christina Aguilera and Ariana Grande is talking about self-love, it becomes easy to get lost and desensitized to the whole idea and form misconceptions.
And these false notions stop us from loving ourselves.
That’s why it is important to resolve them.
So next time you listen to “Let It Go” from the movie Frozen, take a moment to reflect: what does that mean to you?
And in case you are facing difficulties during the process, consult a psychic. Psychic readings can change your perception of self, love, and all relationships.