We know that being a parent is not easy; there is not a school to go per se to become a good parent!
But there is plenty of known methods that will help your child become a positive force for society.
1. Encourage Your Kids
Yes, kids need to try many different things like playing in the playground, swimming, learning an instrument, making clay figurines, drawing, singing, dancing!
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There are so many activities they can enjoy that at first, it might seem daunting, but they probably have a knack for some without knowing.
It’s up to their parents to stimulate their kids and help them find what they are best suited for.
2. Be Consistent
It is really bad for a little one who is learning how to adapt to this new world, never to know what will happen next.
Humans, by nature, are creatures of habits, kids learn habits.
If you decide on a time to go to bed, don’t change it abruptly down the road without a specific reason.
If you are having breakfast, lunch, or dinner, always have it at the same time, so the kid feels some consistency that will help him cope with unforeseen events.
Always explain why you do things so you won’t alienate them and make it look as if your rules are merely capricious.
3. Be The Example
Kids will reflect a lot of what you do, and they can also think for themselves.
They will do a lot of things if you do them as well.
If you are with them and show them the proper way, your kid will enjoy the time you spend with them and might even come to appreciate the activity even if it’s cleaning their room.
Your kid will hesitate to do something if you do not wish to do it, either.
Because they are little, it does not mean that they don’t think.
They will notice the attitude that you have towards what you are doing and telling them to do, and they will most certainly mirror it.
Therefore whenever you are telling them to clean their room, make sure you also clean yours and, if possible, help your little one know how to do it too.
4. Be Encouraging, Not Destructive
Whenever you reprimand your child, do it so when you are not angry.
Tell them what they have done wrong but also show them what they could’ve done better, and always remind them that you love them but that you do not love what they are doing.
Explain how it would make you feel loved and appreciated if they did what pleased you.
You gain more with honey than with bitter words.
It is not easy to speak calmly if your kid just broke an $80 perfume/cologne bottle, but you will only create anger and sadness if you speak with harsh and abusive words.
Remember that they are your blood and flesh and that no one is perfect, but you love them regardless.
5. Spend Time With Them
This is very important and is often overlooked.
Yes, cooking for your kids is nice, but also bringing them into your kitchen and showing them how and why you do things is even better.
They will learn to imitate you and respect your abilities.
Taking them out to the garden and having them help with the chores along with you will create a feeling of unity and a bond that will last a lifetime.
Leaving them to their own devices with all the new apparel, technology, and shows certainly will take a burden off you, but in the long run, it might create a detached relationship with your kids.
Therefore if you have some time and you can do something with your kids, do not hesitate and spend it with them.
You will certainly enjoy it, and they will be very grateful for the rest of their lives knowing they have someone who cares for them.
6. Be Patient
Kids are kids.
They will get muddy; they will make a mess in your dinner table; they will have toys spread around your house.
They will make mistakes, but we all did the same at one point in our lives.
Do not think you are the only one suffering with their shenanigans; you are not alone.
There are plenty of other parents who are having it as hard or worse than you are.
Just remember that they are gifts, and it’s your chance to teach a new generation the tools they need to cope with life, especially in these hard times we are living in.
They need you so much.
Once you realize how important you and your actions are in their lives, it will lessen the view on their flaws.
Your kid has potential and positive attributes, remind yourself and them about it.
7. Express Your Love
For some, it is really hard to show feelings.
They remember their childhood and how expressionless and distant their parents were.
It doesn’t have to be the case for you, nor should it be. Show your kids you love them by giving them hugs, by kissing their foreheads, by holding hands, or by carrying them around (if they aren’t too big) and telling them positive things about themselves.
Don’t pamper them too much, or they might think they are the best thing in the world; you want your kids to be reasonable and tempered.
But make sure that if they do something for you at schools like a drawing or a sculpture, you have something positive to say, and you reassure and make them know you love them.
8.Teach Them To Be Humble
It is a really good quality to have since it will make them get along with others better and be a pleasure to be around with.
Teach them that being a good person is something more desirable than money or fame because both fade away, but their personalities remain until the day they die.