While my Mommy Mantra has always been “fill their bucket of self esteem so full that no matter how many holes someone puts in their bucket, they’ll still overflow”, it’s a proven fact that I have fallen short a few times. It’s tough balancing act making sure your child feels loved with all the things taking place around them.
As the mom to many, I have witnessed how different each of my children are from their taste in food, clothing and entertainment, right down to how they communicate. The one thing they have all had in common is that need to know how much I love them.
Through my career I took courses on communication styles. While the images or fluff in the lesson may have varied, the core of the styles of communication remained the same. In The 5 Love Languages of Children, authors Gary Chapman and Ross Campbell have put together 5 communication styles of children and how to determine which style is your child’s.
2.) WORDS OF AFFIRMATION
4.)ACTS OF SERVICE
5.) PHYSICAL TOUCH
I know that by adapting my communication style to meet my employees style their performance improved. They felt important and they began contributing to the team. The same holds true with my children. When I sat back and took the time to go through the process of identifying which love language was each of my children’s I realized that for the most part I understood them and that I was doing what I could to meet their deepest emotional needs.
Some of my children s’ communication styles weren’t cut and dry. I think sometimes children learn to adapt as well.
Sometimes communication is difficult within a family. It requires constant work, but once you understand the language of love your child (or spouse) speak, it allows the ability to express unconditional feelings of love and respect. It’s a key to filling their buckets of self-esteem.
Throughout the book real life examples are shared. Case studies with more detailed information follow along with how to implement the experiences into communicating with your child.
The book is targeted to parents of children five years and older.
Learning to communicate is fundamental to the success of a child. By teaching them at home effective communication skills, they will be prepared to handle life. This book does well at putting it all in perspective and while it’s geared for communicating with children, I think it lends some advice that can be applied to communicating with anyone.
I found it an interesting read.
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