Being a parent is a responsible and challenging role, and it is especially difficult for those who are raising their first child and are not quite sure yet how to act in certain situations. When you are raising a baby, it takes all your time and energy. But the situation gets even worse when your kid grows up a little.
The adolescence is one of the most exciting, challenging, and awkward periods in the development of an individual’s personality; besides, this age is complicated not only for a teenager but his parents as well. Adults suffer from this period even more because their function does not focus only on the acceptation of the metamorphosis of the child; their role also obliges them to help juveniles to overcome the adverse effects of this time, and teach them how to rebuild the relationship with the surrounding world.
How to overcome this period and help your child? This article is for everyone who is seeking for the right answer to this question, here we will discuss what problems you may face as a parent and give you some effective tips on how to handle them!
What are the time frames of this age?
Before we can move on, let’s clarify who is a “teenager” and what stages there can be; dividing the adolescence into three stages:
- Early adolescence: from 10-11 to 14 years;
- Medium: 14 to 16-17 years old;
- Late: from 16-17 years to adulthood.
What are the difficulties of raising a teenager?
When children start transforming into young men and women, their physical and mental state are in constant change, and from you, it requires a lot of patience, understanding, and support. Below are some of the most common features of this time and issues that may appear:
- Teenagers perceive reality critically;
- Their respect for you as an adult can suffer because this age kids change their priorities, as the new idols appear in their lives;
- You should be patient because teenagers’ mood tends to change rapidly;
- The financial requirements increase;
- It’s the time when they are forming an opinion on certain things;
- In extreme cases, which hopefully won’t happen to you, a teenager may experience morbid attraction to drugs, anorexia or prone to criminal activities.
How to overcome it?
Don’t neglect the importance of your role. Parents who know what to expect, cope with it much better, and the more you know – the easier it will be, so don’t lose the control over the situation and make attempts to help your child.
A quick tip: Study online resources and books about teenagers, remember your adolescence – what you felt, how you behaved, what was important for you in this time!
Expect changes in the mood of your child. Be prepared for possible conflict, as they rarely can be avoided because the kid is trying to become an adult, but try to approach all these issues wisely and strive to find a compromise.
Useful tips for parents!
Change the approach. When a child is younger, he knows and accepts the statement “parents are always right,” and at that time your authority was not subject to question, but now the situation is different, so you will have to change the approach from the mandating to friendly.
Understand and accept. Understanding is the most important thing in the relationship with them. It will be better if you develop trusted relationships with your kid as early as possible, but be sure that an elder child will also appreciate your attention if you will be initiated. And all you need to do is to spend time with a child!
Drop the masks. It is imperative to be sincere and show genuine interest in the inner world and life of a teenager, as parents can permanently lose the trust of the teen if they only pretend to be interested in his affairs, and will try to use his revelations for their own purposes. Learn to accept and even love the world in which your kid lives, put you in his place, and you will be able to earn his trust.
Don’t forget about physical health! We have talked a lot about the mental state of juveniles, but remember that keeping your child physically healthy is not less important, especially when their bodies are changing and organisms require more energy and nutrients.
Admit mistakes. If you make mistakes, do not be afraid to accept them first to yourself and then in front of the child; don’t be afraid to lose your authority, on the contrary, it will increase: after all, only strong people can accept their mistakes.
Homework is important, but everything must be measured. Many parents are making the same mistake by forcing their kids to study well and working harder in school; instead, if you see that a child is experiencing difficulties or stress – let him rest.
Compromise! Sometimes it is not easy to overcome the mutual resentment, but if you learn to compromise this stage will be much easier both for you and your kid.