Whether you’re a new mom or entering the world of multiple kids, it can be a struggle to keep your confidence when your bundle of joy arrives.
The stress of a new baby is enough to make you pull your hair out—you know, the hair that didn’t already fall out during pregnancy.
In a world of celebrity mamas with instant tight figures post-delivery, and a highlight reel of perfect parents at your fingertips, it’s easy to feel insecure.
Here are five ways you can feel confident as a new mom.
Avoid Highlight Reels
First and foremost, it’s important to remember that you’re not alone as a new mom.
Social media only shows you the highlights of people’s experiences.
Find the fellow mamas who post the good, the bad, and the ugly—the ones who show the Pinterest-inspired birthday parties and the two-year-old tantrums.
No matter how defeated you’re feeling, or how many blowout diapers you’ve been changing, there’s always someone out there who’s going through similar chaos.
The simple knowledge that someone understands can be enough to boost your spirits in a, particularly difficult moment.
Find Your Tribe
Don’t have any fellow mamas in your life? There are sites catered specifically to new moms just like you.
One of the best communities to find fellowship is TrulyMama.
In just one click, you’ll have access to parenting tips, baby gear reviews, and endless advice.
The help doesn’t just start after the baby; Pop in during your various stages of pregnancy for answered questions, product reviews, and suggestions from fellow mamas.
Join Facebook groups for moms in your area and around the world.
Sharing experiences and asking for input is both humbling and encouraging.
Welcome to your new tribe of fearless warriors going through parenting together.
Just Say Yes
It’s tempting to enter into motherhood with the need to do it all yourself.
You may feel like no one could do your job better, or you don’t need help to get things done as a new mom.
Accept the help that’s offered to you.
Say yes to friends who are willing to watch your baby while you go for a Mani/Pedi.
Agree to have a family member come to stay with you for the first few weeks that you’re home.
Your body deserves rest to recuperate after bringing life into the world.
If a neighbor offers to drop off a meal or two, take them up on it. You deserve a helping hand, so take it.
When the time comes, you can return the favor.
Let yourself feel the love that you no doubt give to others—it’s good for the soul.
But Also—It’s Okay to Say No as a New Mom
As you cater to your precious bundle, be sure to cater to yourself, too.
You don’t need a full contoured face and red-carpet look.
Do one small thing every day that boosts your self-confidence.
Wear your favorite dress, try a new pair of mink lashes, or pamper your hair with a mask.
When the baby naps, get some shut-eye in, too. Your laundry and cleaning can wait, you deserve the rest.
You might be surprised by how one simple act of self-care can completely overhaul your mood.
There’s a balance to find when it comes to saying yes and saying no.
Set your boundaries and enforce them. If you bring home your new son or daughter and you’re not ready for visitors, be honest.
Your friends and family may be excited to meet the new addition, but it’s okay to set a boundary until you feel the time is right.
Those who truly love and respect you will follow what you set in place.
Protect yourself and your little one, that’s the priority.