One of the most exciting things about raising a child is that you get a front row seat into watching how they grow and develop. As the go from one grade to the next, as they explore different sports and activities and as they make new friends, all of these experiences will help to serve as the framework of who they will be as adults. This is why it is so important that their self-confidence is intact.
Would you like some tips on how to improve your child’s level of self-assurance? If so, we have five great ones for you right here:
Listen to them. Sometimes we don’t realize that it’s “the little things” that can make immense and lasting impressions. Although we as parents are often multitasking to get a lot done at once, when a child is talking, and we’re moving from room to room or answering the phone, it sends the message that what they are saying isn’t super important and that can cause them to doubt themselves. This is why it’s so important that when your child is having a conversation with you that you turn around, look them in the eye and focus on what they have to say.
Show up. If you’re the kind of parent who has your child involved in a lot of activities, it can be a magnificent thing because it exposes them to all sorts of options and opportunities. The thing to remember is that your child needs your presence at little league games and piano recitals. For many years to come, you, in their minds, will be their greatest cheerleader.
Give compliments. We live in a time where, unfortunately, there is a lot of bullying and cyberbullying going on. Often, when a child is not sure what makes them unique, they will believe the mean words that are said to them. This is why it’s a good idea to compliment your child on a consistent basis. Not just with general phrases like “You’re cute” or “You’re smart,” but “I like how you draw pictures” or “I’m so impressed with how good you are at English.” The more they are positively edified at home, the less of a (lasting) effect insults elsewhere will have.
Spend quality time. Everyone likes to feel as if people want to spend quality time with them and children are certainly no exception. Although you see your child every day before and after school, that’s not the same as taking them for a walk in the park or going out to dinner and a movie, just the two of you. Every child should know that they are worthy of individuals making time for them. And when people do, it’s a confidence booster.
Display their achievements. There are websites like http://nlp4kids.org/ that provide suggestions for you to boost confidence in your child. One of the ways some of the practitioners connected to the program will recommend is by displaying your child’s achievements. Whether it’s a trophy, ribbon or report card, make a concerted effort to have a place where they can “show off” all of the good that they’ve done. It will make them triumphal and you very proud.