Maybe in your family, you are full of talkers, but most families conversation tends to be light. We want to talk with our kids but unsure of the best way to do it. Don’t worry as parents there will always be times we feel disconnected, but it doesn’t have to stay that way. To start the conversation, we as parents must learn to engage with them. I know it has been a while since some of us were kids, which is why I came up with 5 questions to get your kids talking. Remember this is about the conversation, so there is no wrong answer as the hope is to use these to lead to deeper conversations. Use these questions on the car ride or around meals. Maybe for you, the conversation help is between you and your wife, then read more about 20 Things every wife loves to hear.
5 Questions to Get Your Kids Talking
- What is the silliest thing that happened this week? Even kids enjoy talking about funny things. This may end up being a discussion about something you did, or one of their friends did. The point of this is to get them talking and even smiling. Make sure you are prepared to share something silly as well. If you don’t have anything click here to check out some Dad Jokes to share.
- If you could eat only one thing forever – what would it be? This one is fun as it makes us think about the foods we really enjoy. You can always change these questions up to be more specific, maybe favorite meat or fruit. You never know you may find out what your kids really like to eat.
- If you could have one superpower what would it be? You might be surprised by the answers on this one. Many times it reminds me how much kids consider others first or other times they are just downright silly. By asking this, it enables them to think about doing anything without limits. This can lead to more serious questions.
- What do you want to be when you grow up? And Why? This one will get some good answers and insights into things they think are cool. Remember this is about conversation not making them commit to a career at age 10. Some of my greatest conversations around this were when they said they would like to be just like their mom or even me their dad. You never know what your kid will answer with until you ask.
- If you could travel anywhere where would you go? This helps kids remember there is a great big world and universe out there to explore. This may lead to conversations about where your next vacation may end up or maybe you learn about that destination more. Maybe you live in the heart of the city, and your kids want to go to the dessert. Maybe your kids want to see the ocean for the first time. Dad tip, pull up google earth to check out the place they mention. Again there is no wrong answer; this is all about starting conversations.
These 5 questions should help to get your kids talking. If they give one-word answers, accept them but maybe ask more questions back. Ask why they want to eat that? Maybe ask why they didn’t say whatever you thought they would have said. Even come up with your own questions to ask them. Again this is about starting the conversation so you will need to be prepared with other thoughts or questions if you want to keep engaging with them.
About the Author: David writes at DadLifeLessons.com and is on Dad journey with 4 kids and an amazing wife. He writes about Funny Lessons, Money, Dad Life, Tech and even meals. If you want to follow on social media you can on Twitter or Instagram.