If you’re a mom planning to walk down that aisle again, there are likely many thoughts running through your head these days.
For starters, how will your child (or children) react to seeing their mom officially tied to a new man in her life?
In some cases, you may have had your child or children when they were too young to remember their biological father before he left their life or lives. If he is still involved in their life or lives, they hopefully have a good relationship with him, something that is one less thing for you to worry about.
If your child or children are old enough, they should also be asked their opinion/s on the upcoming nuptials. It is quite likely that they will play a role in the big day, typically being a part of the bridal party.
With all that in mind, planning to get remarried is something that you want to avoid rushing in more ways than one.
Assuming you are ready to take that next big step in life, the actual plans themselves are as important as anything.
So, where do you go from here?
Making a Day to Remember for All
So that your wedding has the best chance of coming off without a hitch keep these pointers in mind:
- Your significant other
It can be tough on children (especially the younger ones) to see their mom walk down the aisle with someone who is not their biological father.
That said you need to impress upon your young one/s that you have found a new love, one who has hopefully demonstrated to you and your children how much he cares for you.
As an example, if he was shopping for (and ultimately purchased) from the line of moissanite diamond rings or other fine selections when he proposed, things already got off to a good start. Setting the tone of the relationship with a finely crafted engagement ring is music to the ears of most women out there.
With that in mind, be sure to include your soon-to-be husband in not only the wedding planning but also time with you and your children.
As the more bonding opportunities present themselves, the more likely your child or children will take to their future stepfather.
- Your former husband
For many women, the idea of having their ex at their nuptials can be quite a tough call to make.
You have to stop for a moment (probably a few minutes) and determine what is in the best interests of not only you but your children on this big day.
On the plus side, there are many women out there who are lucky enough to have cordial (even in some cases great) relationships with their former husbands. As such, their children benefit from seeing that their biological parents can still function as a unit regarding raising them.
If you do decide to invite your ex, you should also extend the invitation to his current wife or girlfriend. Once again, your children should see that there is nothing wrong with two adults they love having moved on with their lives.
- Your honeymoon
Once you have the big day behind you, you’re more than likely all about that honeymoon and some quality one-on-one time together.
That said plan a honeymoon that is reasonable for the two of you, meaning don’t blow up your bank account/s in the process.
Having time away from the children is, of course, important, but you also do not want to mortgage your immediate futures, taking a trip you simply can’t afford.
In some cases, having a quick weekend romantic getaway can be just as much fun, allowing you to save some money for a more extensive honeymoon down the road.
Like the wedding day and raising your children moving forward, the honeymoon should involve open lines of communication, making sure you both are on the same page when all is said and done.
As someone who has remarried, what advice do you have for those women with kids about to experience this new chapter in their lives?